[opinion] Why can’t we all just be HAPPY for Rain and Kim Tae Hee?
~Written by Terri :-}, Managing Editor
One of the first things I thought when the news broke that Rain was dating Kim Tae Hee was, ‘Wow, good for you, big fella!” The next, I was wondering where they met and how they first caught each others’ eyes. I also wondered how long they had been dating. If it had been awhile, how had they managed to keep it a secret until now, especially with Rain being in the ROK Army?
However, not in a million years did it ever enter my mind to hate Kim Tae Hee or to think that she was lying about her relationship with Rain, a relationship which, according to the ROK Army Defense Media Agency (DEMA), has been corroborated by Rain himself, whether anyone wants to believe it or not.
Besides, do you honestly think that a top actress in Asia would LIE to the public and her fans about dating another one of the top stars in Asia for publicity purposes? Or that she would announce their brand new relationship without knowing what Rain would want her to do?
As far as the depth of their relationship goes, she was not being in a hurry. She was not imagining things. She was not “jumping the gun.” She was simply being truthful. Those photos from The Dispatch were some of the best-put-together evidence I’ve seen in a long time, as proof for celebrity dating. Seriously, most tabloids jump the gun and end up getting sued over the stupid stuff they print, but this time, The Dispatch was extremely thorough.
Even I had to be impressed, and I hate tabloid news rags. Who knows? Maybe they’d heard about Rain’s new penchant for suing tabloids for getting it wrong? Whatever the reason, they did a darned good job making their evidence irrefutable.
Still, those photos did not tell the whole story. The dates captured by the paparazzi photos were reported to have occurred while Rain was “on duty.” That is a FACT. Therefore, those are the ONLY dates that he got in trouble for. That doesn’t mean, however, that Rain and Tae Hee didn’t go on OTHER dates.
It has been reported that the couple has been spending as much time together as they could manage since they started dating at the end of November. The Dispatch, which broke the news about their dating in the first place, also said that the couple spent December 23rd and Christmas Eve together. However, since Rain has not admitted that those other dates occurred while he was on duty (which as of yesterday he hadn’t), then all of those OTHER dates he had with Tae Hee can’t be counted against him, because they occurred on his off-duty days.
So, yes, dear Clouds. It’s true. Your Prince Rain, the man who can apparently do no wrong in some Clouds’ eyes, has been a bad, bad boy. He got hot for a girl and thwarted rules he KNEW he should not have broken and he went on three dates while he was on duty. Oh, and he was SO hot about her that he forgot to put his darned cap back on while he was switching cars. Silly man. :-}
Fans’ bizarre insistence that Kim Tae Hee is somehow “wrong” or “mistaken” or even “lying” about their relationship, or that she “caused” all of the problems he is having with the military is ridiculous and baffling. Rain is not in trouble with the military because he is dating Kim Tae Hee. He is in trouble because of how he was dating her.
Frankly, Rain is a big boy. He knew what he was doing was wrong, but he did it anyway. So, to blame Tae Hee for all of the troubles Rain is going through now, after it all went bad, is simply unfair. Sure, it was probably not a good idea to go along with it, but that’s assuming that she even knew he was on duty.
Heck, we don’t even know if he even said anything about that to her at all. She could have just assumed that what they were doing was allowed, because she trusted him to know what he could and couldn’t do. Maybe she didn’t know, until after the news broke, that he was violating Army regulations. After all, they hadn’t been dating that long—and she’s not in the military herself.
The bottom line is this. They are dating. They were dating while Rain was on duty. They got caught. They felt it was best not to perpetuate a LIE, because that could have gotten Rain into even bigger trouble with the military. So, they didn’t. They told the truth. Which good people do when they get caught doing something wrong.
Most people aren’t bothering to read all of the news properly and are now making up wild stories based on their own fantasies about Rain. I say that because there is no reason in the world that people should be so hateful about this news if they are in their right minds.
I have done some research on Kim Tae Hee, and she appears to be a smart, reputable and extremely beautiful woman. She is also a wonderful lady who is talented in her own right as an actress and a spokesmodel.
Could she use the publicity? Of course. Always. But how could it possibly help her to expose her relationship with Rain carelessly (no matter how old it was), especially in Korea, where the admission of celebrity dating is almost taboo? Especially if your new boyfriend just happens to be Rain, of all people. I mean everyone in the world knows, especially Korean celebrities themselves, that Rain has some of the most obsessive fans in around, and that these fans aren’t going to be particularly fond of him dating anyone at all.
Haven’t any of you ever read about the hate mail, the scathing netizen comments, or even the death threats surrounding celebrity couples who decide to publicly date in Korea? Wow. It’s nuts. Anyone who follows Korean news regularly would know that it is not particularly GOOD press in Asia to admit that you are dating one of the hottest stars in the world.
And that doesn’t just happen in Korea. Anybody read any Belieber comments about Selena Gomez when she started dating Justin Bieber? (Oh, by the way, apparently Justin and Selena had another fight and it’s splitsville again. I feel bad for them, but they really should stop fighting in public. But they’re young. They’ll learn. :-})
Let me see how this would work. Okay, Tae Hee thinks, ‘I need some publicity. This is perfect. I’ll admit to the world that I’m dating Rain and everyone everywhere will love me and will be just dying to see my upcoming drama.’ She would never ever stop to think for one moment about all of the hate mail and even death threats she would get from Rain’s “quasi-girlfriends,” or how much trouble Rain would get into with the ROK Army, which is notorious for its extremely hardcore culture? Surely, there are better paths out there for moving yourself up in the Internet search rankings?
The bottom line is that sometime in November 2012 Rain began dating Kim Tae Hee, and the sooner everyone gets over it and gets happy for them the better it will be for the new couple. Do I believe this will ever happen? No, because after running a fan site for three years, I know that fans love to perpetuate drama over the silliest things. Like dating, for example.
I’m sorry to have to break this news to you, ladies, but Rain is likely never going to marry one of his fans. Especially not when there are sexy, beautiful, and perfectly eligible women working with him every day, women who can catch his eye and win his heart much more easily than any of the anonymous fan faces at his concerts or fan events will ever be able to. He’d love for you to believe that, of course, because a dating and/or married artists makes less money, but from a practical point of view, the idea of that ever happening doesn’t make any logical sense. So, if any of you are having too much trouble emotionally accepting Rain’s decision on who he is dating or marrying and having children with, then you really need to take a long, hard look at yourself, because there is something really wrong with you.
If, when you all read our posts, there are links to sources of information embedded in the articles, please click on them, so that you can read for yourself where we got our information. I know we are a fan club, but we are not just making up things out of our heads over here. We are printing the truth. At least we try to do our best to. That means, though, that sometimes you may not like what we write. Like now. Because sometimes the truth can hurt.
So, please Clouds. Would you PLEASE try really really hard to be happy for Rain and Kim Tae Hee? Their budding romance is in its most delicate of stages—and now Rain’s in trouble. No one really knows if their relationship will blossom into real love or even then if that love will last. They probably don’t even know themselves. So, do you really want to cause Rain more damage by disrespecting the one woman he has chosen to date right now? Really?
I was so delighted when I discovered that Rain had finally found himself a little sparkle of joy this holiday season. What a terrible shame it is that he couldn’t hold onto it for just a little while longer.
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